|“||Men don't get to decide what is misogynistic
Straight people don't get to decide what is homophobic
Condesplaining (sometimes shortened to splaining, 'splaining or splainin') is a social interaction or phenomenon in which holders of privilege explain something (often to do with oppression) to someone normally on the receiving end of that oppression.
"To condesplain" is derived from the phrase "to explain condescendingly", but is nonetheless not synonymous to it as it includes the power imbalance of intersectional oppression and privilege and does not necessitate an arrogant tone.
The earliest use of the verb "to condesplain" is found online in a Mumsnet discussion, mirroring how "mansplaining" was coined in the comment section of a LiveJournal blog. The user TrillianAstra defined it as:
|Explaining in a condescending manner to one who you consider as less than yourself in a number of ways.|
It was proposed because some Mumsnet users thought that "mansplain" was reverse sexist because "no part of it requires a penis". This is a highly problematic gender essentialist rationale for the creation of a nonetheless useful term. No part of being a man requires a penis, lack/loss of a penis does not strip one of their male identity, and possession of a penis does not imply one is a man. In fact, gender is a self-identity. Confounding "penis" with "man" is enforcing the gender binary, cisnormativity, transmisogyny, and ultimately patriarchy and kyriarchy.
To deny or minimise mansplaining is to deny or minimise male privilege.
- Splaining on Geek Feminism Wiki
- Mamastiles, on Tumblr
- On Whitesplaining, Mansplaining, And Why The Majority NEVER Gets To Tell Minorities What Is Offensive, by Isobel Debrujah
- See this Atheism+ forum topic.
- A Cultural History of Mansplaining
- Mansplaining, Knowyourmeme
- Archived version of Mumsnet thread
- Search results for "condesplain"